“TOPICS”
Things I Don’t Know Scare Me: By Brecka
Who?
When you were a small child, every single thing was new and exciting. You came here knowing/remembering nothing about this world, and you came here with extreme curiosity about everything in this world. You solely relied upon the people around you to tell you and show you the ins and outs of this new place. Even though they always did the best they could for you and themselves, they weren’t always able to send the best messages. They demonstrated to you How they feel about things, How they look at life, How they believe life is. We want you to get excited about How you feel, perceive, and believe. Now we will begin a new introduction and “re-training” of a new world for a new you. Get your curiosity caps on 
What?
Fear is a powerful emotion, to say the least. If it controls you vs you controlling it you will be living in a very limited way. It’s important to recognize and understand this emotion. And once harnessed your world will expand immediately. We’ll tell you How to do that later. For now, What is important for you now? Are you happy living in fear or are you enthusiastic about stepping into a new place of power and appreciation? There is a new way to view and understand the world around you. What you must start to do is trust in yourself. Know that you are capable of living differently, and you will be amazed at How different and comfortable your new way of living is. Currently, you’re living in a bubble, so scared about What it bumps into, if and when it’ll burst, and How scared you’ll be if/when that happens. That’s no way to live, and you are not serving the best interest of yourself or that of others.
Where?
“Where did this come from? Where in my life is this affecting me?” This came from the fear that the primary people in your life were living with. No need to trace it back to the source, or fault them for these flaws-as we will rid you of your flaws and fears. Fear affects people in a variety of ways: scared to be alone, scared to fly in a plane, scared to meet new people, scared to be in water, scared to say “I don’t know,” when you really don’t know, scared to go new places, scared to be around animals, scared to dream, scared to “change,” scared to sing, scared to learn new things, scared of failure and success, scared to express yourself, scared to confront others, scared to be attractive, scared to be in nature, scared to drive a car…the list goes on and on and on.
When?
When are you going to change this attitude and behavior? Hopefully by now, the answer is now. The world has so so much to offer, that limiting yourself, in ways you never chose for yourself in the first place, is such a shame. When you decide that you want to make your own choices for you, the world will just open up its doors to you. You’re “missing out” on so many things currently: experiences, connections, emotional empowerment, and fun! Please don’t be scared to be happy and fulfilled any longer-nothing has to stop you!! When you tear down that brick wall that has been “protecting” you for so long now, you’ll see that behind that wall is a world of beauty, compassion, love, trust, acceptance, interest, motivation and excellence. We know that even that seems scary; we also know that the initial scare is worth going through vs what an entire life of living scared will mean for you. We promise to soothe and comfort your anxieties and make this transition something you can succeed at in no time.
Why?
“Why, Brecka, are you implying that I’m so paralyzed and exhibiting poor behavior?” Because you are-you are not able to explore new things that you currently don’t explore, and it is unacceptable to behave in certain ways just because that’s what you were taught in the past. Every day is a new day; full of new choices and full of new options to make new decisions about. Why are You choosing to be so scared of the world and the things in it? – This doesn’t have to happen, and you will be so excited and amazed and proud of yourself for stepping into a new reality. Some things you want to change, some things you keep as they are-but the most important is you’ll be deciding on what’s right for you and the “Why” behind it. Some people don’t even know Why they are scared of things; they haven’t ever examined and asked themselves, “Why am I afraid of this?” The title of this Topic is Things I Don’t Know Scare Me and not I’m Scared All The Time with reason. We don’t believe it is possible to be scared all the time of everything. You don’t just naturally fear things, someone chose that for you-so currently you are only scared of things you don’t really know about and haven’t made your own decisions about…yet.
HOW?
“How is it possible to change something I’ve feared for so long?” Just do it, try it out again. “Whoa, that’s sounds crazy and scary!” Nope, not now-now you have new tools to use to assist your new adventure. And yes, we want you to look at this as an adventure. We want you to pretend you are a child again, and feel all the excitement and curiosity you surely felt back then. While getting back in touch with those feelings, there just won’t be any room for fearful feelings. We now understand Where this came from and Why it is continuing; What we want to focus on now is not so much on What you are afraid of, but of What you’re feeling about the things you’re afraid of and How to feel differently. Understanding that “facing” How you feel about things will change your life forever, will be a new freedom, and will feel sooooo good. And you won’t even have to go back and worry about What you were afraid of before, because you won’t be worried about How fear feels anymore = won’t fear things. How to feel feelings differently and successfully are fully described in the 1-2-3 Go! category-check it out! – because (added bonus) it works for all emotions too – yippee!!
Things I Don’t Know Scare Me: By Caroline
Who?
Everyone is constantly having New experiences! Even in the daily routine, we are experiencing New Things ALL the time. Whether it is a different route to work due to road construction, or the news you are to become a father, Things You Don’t Know about are always going on. Unfortunately, many of us have got into a habit where our emotional reaction to New Things is FEAR. When You first came here you knew nothing – every experience you had was brand new! Eating, walking, talking…all of the things we do every day was once something we Did Not Know! Could you imagine if you were scared by Things You Didn’t Know as a little baby? We would never learn to eat, walk or talk – Luckily we were born brave and curious little babies!
What?
If we were ALL curious babies, then What happened? As You grew up, you noticed how those closest to you handled new experiences. You couldn’t help but observe their words and reactions. These people did what they were capable of, which is the best any of us can do. This may have resulted in You fearing Things You Didn’t Know - whether it was literally or subtly taught to you. What is important, is to know that just as we learned to Fear the unknown, we can learn to Embrace the unknown.
When?
When do You choose Fear over Excitement? Whenever you choose Fear over Excitement, you are doing it wrong! When you choose Fear: you miss out on connecting, you miss out on learning opportunities, you miss out on FUN, you miss out on life! Fear is a funny thing – we think it gives us control. We use it as a protective bubble: stopping bad things from happening, preventing hurt feelings. But in actuality, Fear controls us. That bubble that was supposed to protect You from pain, actually creates pain by separating You from Your Life and Who You really are.
Where?
Where in my life are there things that Scare Me? People are scared of spiders, driving, cats, job interviews, confrontation, contact sports, other people, water…for every possible life experience there is a possible fear. Sounds rather silly? If every possible life experience is a possible fear, then why aren’t we scared ALL the time? This is because You are not intrinsically fearful! It is in Your nature and in all our natures to be inquisitive, fascinated and enthralled by life! Remember how good it felt when you first learned to ride a bike? Remember learning how to drive a car – amazing!
Why?
Why do Things I Don’t Know Scare Me? The sources of these fears don’t really matter; and the rationality of these fears are irrelevant. What you must know is that ALL fear comes from “not knowing”. The problem is that many of us forget that Not Knowing really means: There is something New, Exciting happening – just for You! The only difference between a Fearful Not Knowing and an Anticipating with Excitement Not Knowing is what goes on in your head. How empowering! It is in your hands only; you have the power to choose whether the unknown is scary or wonderful! What will you choose?
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