Barreling out of the womb like a bullet, Caroline Roling made her grand entrance in a matter of minutes. Mom wasn’t prepared, the doctor hadn’t even made it to the hospital…but there was NO stopping Caroline – she was primed and ready to go! She knew it was the exact perfect moment to start her life. It was no wonder an inborn zest for life came so naturally to Caroline! As a young child, she reveled in catching snowflakes on her tongue from first winter’s snow. Spring brought the adventure “berry hunts” in pristine woods. The glory of annual 4th of July fireworks was like a religious experience for her. Despite Caroline’s passion, she felt like a stranger in her own life. In living in such a beautiful world, WHY did she feel so utterly separate from everything and everyone?
Caroline’s feelings of separation increasingly made her unwelcome and uncomfortable in her own life. She constantly dwelled on one question: “WHY can’t I “fit in”?” Caroline tried to pretend to like and think what she thought everyone else liked and thought. She soon believed life would be easier if she was anyone…anyone except Caroline. Why was it so damn difficult and uncomfortable to be Caroline?!
“Fitting In” was NOT fitting in as Caroline imagined: Pretending to be someone else resulted in feelings of insecurity, guilt, anger, worry, discouragement, and never being good enough. When Caroline was at her most detached, she felt utterly powerless. Should she even be here?? With this approach, there was absolutely no way she could possibly love her life – or love herself. Deep inside Caroline knew there had to be another way…her passion for life may have simmered to a flicker, but the flame was still there!
Caroline threw herself into what came naturally to her: Learning to help herself and learning How to help others. A natural mediator, she squashed quarrels between neighborhood kids. She delved into a different encyclopedia nightly. She used every interaction with people as an opportunity to study and learn. Caroline started observing everything in her path, soaking up every experience, all while adding information to the endless file cabinet in her head. The little flicker of passion began to grow into a small fire.
The post high school journey led Caroline to college where, after some twists and turns, she was naturally drawn to her chosen field: Psychology. What a godsend – Psychology explained WHY! Caroline felt so incredibly liberated! Finally she had the WHY: WHY people felt and did what they did, WHY she felt and did what she did. WHY the world was the way it was! Having the WHY was exhilarating, but without the HOW Caroline felt at a loss: she didn’t yet have the concrete tools to help others, let alone help herself create the best life possible.
In the shadows of grieving the unexpected passing of her father, Caroline had a moment of inspiration: It’s the HOW! Without the HOW, all that learning, all those experiences, added up to only facts and memories. Her passion for life that once dwindled to a spark was now a full fledged 5 alarm fire! With practice, Caroline very quickly discovered that The HOW is the ultimate, most crucial, and empowering step to making life the best life ever! She found her true calling: sharing the HOW…and Caroline is so incredibly excited to share The HOW with you and the world! You ready World? Here’s The HOW!
Check out Caroline’s Personal Journal Entries!!
08/21/10 - Happy Body, Happy Mind
10/22/10 - It’s a bird, it’s a plane, it’s SUPER CAROLINE!