“1-2-3 Go!”
First Things First:
Your Intent + Others Understanding You = Knowing Your Audience
Stop being misinterpreted, ignored, or avoided…
Follow Step 1: Adjust Your Delivery Methods!!!
Think before you speak; not all conversations are a brainstorming session.
If you or another feels rushed, don’t dive into a new conversation.
If you feel angry, frustrated, overwhelmed, etc. take time to feel your feelings alone. Don’t go through your emotions with another person, wait until you can calmly talk about your emotions.
If another feels angry, frustrated, overwhelmed, etc. either leave them alone so they can sort out and feel their emotions OR remain in a good feeling place to lift up their emotional state.
Follow Step 2: Change Your Intonations!!!
No more monotone! Let your voice express and convey to others What you are feeling! They should be able to tell if you’re excited by just your voice, not because you tell them you are excited.
Don’t allow your feelings to overpower your words. When you are super emotionally charged, you may have to tone it down a bit so that your messages are understood clearly and not misinterpreted. People hear the excitement of your emotion, but this overexcitement leaves little room for them to hear your words.
Are they hard of hearing or speaking another language that is not native to them? S-l-o-w d-o-w-n!!! Enunciate and pronounce words clearly and individually. Raise your voice to project your words-but don’t yell or be rude.
Follow Step 3: Use Your Vocabulary Appropriately!!!
Are you speaking with a group or intellectuals or a bunch of teenagers? Use your words wisely. If you are smart enough to know “big” words, then you have the responsibility of being smart enough to know when to use them.
Follow up the usage of “big” words with alternative synonyms (I know I’m being redundant) within the same sentence to make sure they understand you.
Follow Step 4: Adjust Your Expectations!!!
Are you only speaking because you want to hear yourself speak, because you haven’t spoken to someone in a long time, because you never got the job as an advice columnist?? Speak with a reason, an intention. And please, please know your intention ahead of time! When your intention is clear, you are more likely to get your expectations fulfilled.
If your only intention is to connect with another, great-do it appropriately. If you are engaging in trivial chit chat, don’t expect to always get solid details. If you are talking about a serious issue, don’t except that cracking jokes will be well received. You need to be an attentive listener to know what is expected from you, and you need to be a proper communicator to have your expectations fulfilled.
People ultimately want to talk and connect with you, please lend more focus on How that is best done and pay attention to the results you get. The amount of satisfaction you’ll feel by adjusting to your audience will amaze you and you’ll be sharing more than you ever expected!-it will actually be requested of you 
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